Since Dirt and I have been speaking out about how Lesbians are different than straight women and how straight females (even alleged “
allies“) and Straightbians harm Lesbians, we have received a lot of feedback which typically boils down to: “Be nice! We need to support our straight sisters! You HATE straight women! Etc.”
In fact, I recently accidentally noticed someone on Twitter subtweeting “She (Dirt) hates straight women”. I already addressed it directly with that person, but the incident made me realize that some people seem to actually think that, so I felt I needed to do a specific post on it.
So, here’s the official answer:
NO, DIRT AND I DO NOT HATE STRAIGHT WOMEN.
Pointing out that there are actual differences between straight females and Lesbians beyond who we f**k does NOT equal “hate”.
Pointing out that Lesbians have been harmed in numerous ways by Straightbians and even straight
allies does NOT equal “hate”.
Look, if Dirt and I actually hated straight females, we’d just SAY it. It’s not like we are known for mincing words, is it?
Falsely claiming that what we are saying equals “hate” is a typical but transparent way to try to dismiss what we are actually saying and to attempt to alienate people from us.
Both Dirt and I have many straight female friends, relatives, and coworkers who we get along with just fine, thank you very much.
The key factor in being able to keep these relationships is the fact that NONE of these women who we consider to be friends/family are pretending to be Lesbian, speaking for Lesbians, lying about Lesbians, appropriating Lesbian, profiting from Lesbians, or in any other way harming Lesbians.
Because if they were doing any of that, we would NOT remain friends with them.
Our true friends stay in their lane, and we stay in our lane. They don’t tell us what it’s like to be a Lesbian, and we don’t tell them what it’s like to be straight.
It’s really simple, Sherlock:
Standing up for ourselves and for Lesbian lives/rights is NOT “hate” nor is it inappropriate in any way. What is actually wrong is when straight women attempt to hetsplain Lesbian to actual Lesbians while refusing to listen to us.
Bottom line: Dirt and I do NOT hate straight females, but we do, in fact, hate what is often done to Lesbians by straight females. There’s a large difference between the two, and it would behoove our detractors to learn what that difference is.