UnStraightening Lesbian-Removing the Heterosexual Lens-Patrick Califia

Another joint post with Dirt originally posted here.

In our second UnStraightening Lesbian piece, we focus our attention on the VERY pedo/misogynistic/sado disturbed and VERY NON lesbian Pat aka Patrick Califia. We begin the sick treacherous road into Califia with a quote from NAMBLA‘s pro-pedophile (YIKES!!) website:

Boy-lovers and the lesbians who have young lovers are the only people offering a hand to help young women and men cross the difficult terrain between straight society and the gay community. They are not child molesters. The child abusers are priests, teachers, therapists, cops and parents who force their stale morality onto the young people in their custody. Instead of condemning pedophiles for their involvement with lesbian and gay youth, we should be supporting them.”  ~ Pat Califia, Lesbian author and activist, in The Advocate, October, 1980.

Pat Califia has LONG been discussed/published/quoted/celebrated and otherwise known (prior to transition) as a LESBIAN writer. Califia is MOST certainly NOT a dyke and as for being a writer (subtracting quality) we may consider her that. I recall in my gay 20’s seeing Califia routinely published in so-called lesbian magazines etc, even then it was obvious from her writing alone she wasn’t a lesbian anymore than her writings were groundbreaking; piss poor poetry coupled with forced fisting fictions (or nonfictions as the case may be).

Before publishing in the lesbian presses Califia. along with warped STRAIGHTBIAN lezzie poser Gayle Rubin, pooled their perversions into Samois, the first lesbian BDSM organization for sexually used/abused STRAIGHTBIANS/bisexuals and the just plain odd to meet/great and get down and dirty. It is through Samois that Califia specifically honed her cunt hating craft.

Califia was first taken up by the Lesbian press when she put out Sapphistry: The Book of Lesbian Sexuality. Again, like Susie (not so) Bright, we have a sexually disturbed/screwed up straight woman, DICKtating lesbian sex to lesbians! While this book didn’t reveal how disturbed Califia was (is), it did reveal she didn’t know the first thing about lesbian relationships nor the sex that occurs between lesbian lovers.

Another of her lesbian successes came in the form of the fictive shorts, Macho Sluts collection. Each short story giving testament to Califia’s pure hatred for the female sex, lesbian or otherwise.

Vaginal rape, anal rape, rape with fists/arms, rape with whips and as it figures in multiple stories her personal favourite enema rapes. Lesbians being beaten, cut, sliced, forced to drink their own piss, bound, gagged, canned and immobilized. Lesbians choked while they have a dildo shoved down their throats. Lesbians begging and pleading to their “daddy” to either stop what they’re doing or to do more of whats being done. Lesbians whose inner dialogue before being raped by several police officers is she really does love cock:

REAL Lesbians do not only NOT figure in anything Califia wrote, REAL lesbians DO NOT WANT TO BE RAPED OR FUCKED BY ANY MALE and, for that matter, we don’t want to be raped by anybody! Califia’s SICKO fiction is just that, SICK! It isn’t feminist, it isn’t lesbian and it isn’t subversive, it is subhuman and it reveals MORE about its writer than it EVER could about the women (lesbians) it claims to represent!

If you arent convinced of Califia’s penchant for the perverted, bear in mind her pedophile predilections that she (in their only female issue) published in the now defunct Paidika-The Journal of Paedophilia, NAMBLA and any other twisted kidster zine. Califia says in her Paidika article regarding child porn:

it would be a mistake to characterize all child porn as “a record of child abuse.” Sometimes it was a record of children’s exhibitionism and free erotic play with one another. Sometimes it was a record of adolescent vanity, pride, and budding sexuality. Sometimes it preserved a moment of exceptional trust and pleasure between partners whose ages would normally have kept them apart.”

 Califia goes on to minimize the number of missing and sexually abused children: (Perhaps we could arrange a sit down between Califia and John Walsh?)

“The campaign against child pornography was fueled by related moral hysteria over missing children. During the early ’80s, the American media was full of melodramatic accounts of the “millions” of children who were kidnapped and then sexually abused by strangers

Califia further enlightens us on what lesbian feminist‘s sexually desire and do with lesbian children/youth:

“American society has become rabidly phobic about any sexual contact between adults and minors. In this social climate, very few lesbians will admit to having cross-generational relationships or defend even the abstract idea of them. Within the lesbian community, other forces exist (spaceships/laser beams?) that prevent girl-lovers and underage lesbians from telling their own stories. We encourage incest survivors to break the silence and tell family secrets about violence and sexual abuse. But this sisterly support turns to outrage and cries for silence if a woman wants to talk about being a sexually active child or even a teenager who was not traumatized by the experience. (Honey, trust me, YOU were/are seriously traumatized) Lesbian-feminism supposedly empowers women, but we are reluctant to see young women’s sexual experiences as anything but victimization.”

Lesbians work constantly to undo their racism, classism, able-bodyism, looksism, coupleism. and all other forms of prejudice. We give lip service to confronting ageism, but we do not really include underage lesbian and bisexual women in our community. The simple truth is that we are afraid to. We are afraid the state will come down on us, brand us as child molesters (NOT US honey, just YOU), and put us in jail.”


In conclusion, Califia never was a Lesbian, not before she transitioned (identifying with her abuser/s), nor since. What is painstakingly obvious is Califia was perhaps sexually abused. But rather than work through those horrors, become a healthy woman who managed to survive child sexual abuse, write and maybe reach other women, Califia glamorized and glorified her abuse under Lesbianism! And worse, harmed and tortured other women in the name of Lesbianism!

Her pedestrian pornofied perversions were published in Lesbian presses, taking up money and space where REAL lesbian authors should have been published! What happened to those lesbian writers whose stories and novels got chuffed aside for Califia’s pedophilic pleasure principles?

“At 45, I was terrified of changing my gender, afraid it would mean that I’d no longer be able to make a living, since my income was based on being a lesbian therapist and journalist.”

How many Lesbian owned and operated bookstores closed because lesbians werent interested/could not relate to the filth and garbage published by so-called dyke presses these bookstores felt they should carry? I suspect like so-called lesbian magazines today (Curve/Diva), most were run by warped/damaged STRAIGHTBIANS. Women who have the money/clout and straight privileges to call what they’re doing Lesbian, write about it, publish it and get praised as ground breaking Lesbian works.

We hope LESBIAN readers of this series are starting to notice a pattern of behaviour, some common threads run through each woman featured in this series. We also want to make mention: we’re not prudes, nor do we think or believe any lesbian should be, therefore, we hope we drew a distinct line between playful kink and violent or pedophilic perversions.

Mrs Dirt and Dirt

10 thoughts on “UnStraightening Lesbian-Removing the Heterosexual Lens-Patrick Califia

  1. I do see a disturbing pattern of damaged people caught into a spiral of abusive behavior and self-hatred, only to dump all of this on others – lesbians, in this case. Very sad.

    I am sure you are running the risk of being seen as prudes, though… therefore, your final remark. If I may make a suggestion, I would perhaps spell out more clearly what your definition of regular, kinky playful is as opposed to what these people advocate for. I mean, I understand the problem with her being a pedophile and drawing absurd conclusions on lesbian desire, and I also understand that no lesbian wants to be raped or have sex with a man, but where do you draw the line between actual desire and fantasy? A lesbian who enjoys dildos, for example, is not someone who secretly enjoys dick. (Disclaimer: I hate both, but that’s the first example that came to mind)

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    • Good point; how we define the difference between kink/playful versus abnormal/unhealthy lies first and foremost in whether the activity is between consenting adults.

      Consent is mandatory. For example, in Califia’s book Macho Sluts, there are examples where consent is explicitly NOT given. If someone says “no” before or during any sexual activity, the activity should stop immediately.

      And the other mandatory part of that equation is adult: obviously, anyone involved needs to be a legal, actual adult.

      Another offensive thing about Califia’s writing was the continuous implication that lesbians want sex with men, which is beyond ridiculous.

      I would also say, in my opinion, any activity that extends to actual severe pain & injury is unhealthy. These stories were NOT about someone being tied up lovingly with silk scarves and fed chocolate-covered strawberries or called a “naughty girl” in a safe role-playing situation with a trusted lover; instead, the characters in those stories were beaten severely and subjected to other torturous and dangerous things. So, I think that if it crosses the line to actual injury/danger, it has gone too far.

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  2. What a fucking sicko. It almost sounds like these people are trying to conform to the hard-core youth obsessed gay male culture (before they cleaned house , that is), thinking it would work for lesbians. People also think that if you have any kind of sexual difference, it must automatically mean you are open to every other sexual difference.

    I agree with the above description of playful, safe-sane-consensual kink. My description: However you do sex, it should never involve pain beyond maybe a smack, pinch, nibble, etc. And it should never, ever result in actual injury, degradation, or exposure to disease. Any dominant/submissive play was in role-playing sessions with safeguards. When I first started exploring BDSM, that was my understanding of what was acceptable. But apparently many, many people doing kink think anything should go…including things like asphyxiation.

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    • Exactly!

      In many instances in Califia’s book, Macho Sluts, a character would explicitly say she did NOT give consent and the other characters would go right ahead anyway, which is
      against the rules of BDSM (and against the rules of ANY sort of sexual contact!).

      Also, the activities in this book were dangerous ones that could lead to serious injury, and potentially even death (forced enemas, forced use of drugs, caning & whipping until actual injury, knife play, forced vaginal and anal fisting & sometimes both at the same time, rape, kidnapping, extreme restraint until circulation was cut off, choking with a dildo, etc.).


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  3. I read ‘Macho Sluts’ years ago, and must mention one of the selections called ‘The Finishing School’. A Victorian-era woman first consoles her young charge, who doesn’t want to be sent away to said school, and then canes her till she’s bloody as a test of the twelve year old’s loyalty. The young girl is so aroused by this that she begs her mother to deflower her. Her mother promises she will do so if the girl behaves satisfactorily at school. Early the following morning, the girl dreamily listens as her aunt tells the ‘romantic’ story of being disciplined by her older sister (the girl’s mother) regularly until THEIR mother realized there was a sexual element to the discipline and separated the sisters. Years later they reunited by chance, and moved in together to raise the child that the older sister had conceived out of wedlock, and lived happily and incestuously ever after. This triangle was one of the most twisted things I’d ever read, and it didn’t surprise me to learn later that Califia supports pedophilia. I am heterosexual, and was merely curious about the BDSM, which I enjoy only as a form of foreplay and I believe completely in ‘safe’, ‘sane’, and ‘consensual’. Califia wrote that she resented including condoms in the stories (such as the one with the male cops), but did so because the publisher required it. What about girls being physically and psychologically tortured by their mothers!?

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