In the ongoing effort to help Lesbians free themselves from the long-nailed clutches of Straightbians they may be involved with, and to spare all other Lesbians from ever getting involved with Straightbians, we bring you Portraits of a Straightbian.
Portrait A: She is often the victim of child sexual abuse, usually perpetrated by her father/father figure(s). Sometimes her mother knows she is being abused and turns a blind eye. This strange abusive familial coupling solidifies her hatred of both men and women: men for abusing her and women for failing to love/protect her.
Portrait A-a: This is a subcategory of Portrait A. In this category, we often find the Special Snowflake types. Women who may have grown up in an atmosphere where sexual overtones were in the air, but never quite crossed over into sexual abuse. Regardless, these women grew up feeling like they weren’t heard enough, loved enough, or told they were special enough. We often later find them to have many body piercings/modifications, tattoos, outrageous outfits such as angel wings, crazy platform shoes, studded or with chains/safety pins etc., multi-coloured hair, goths, “queer”, etc. You will find many with a litany of adjectives in front of their names. They may or may not be promiscuous; they may have both boyfriends and girlfriends. While they might frequently, when younger, date Lesbians, they don’t usually abuse/use them beyond bragging rights (“I’m dating a Lesbian now-I’m so cool”). Most grow up, marry a man, have kids, and move on.
Portrait B: She may not have been sexually abused, but she is straight and usually left-handed/right-brained. Her right-brainness makes her “feel different” from her female peers. She is both attracted to boys and repelled by them. During puberty and early adulthood, she may confuse not feeling like other women and her dislike/discomfort with the power dynamics between male/female relationships for Lesbianism. Many Portrait B‘s will be attracted to Feminism/academia; even sometimes becoming leaders in Feminist groups. They may insist to other group members that Lesbianism is a political choice. Many speak or dream of a feminist separatist utopia where they are the leader. They often try to appear (in heterosexual notions) “unfeminine”. This “unfemininity”, in their straight brains, is how they perceive Lesbians to look/be. Many will say that they have consciously “eschewed femininity”, believing that feminine or non-feminine are merely patriarchal fashion choices to be donned or discarded at will. Online, they will often change their screen names and/or have dozens of different online personas.
Portrait C: She may be a combination of Portrait A and B. Portrait C Straightbians pose a more sinister danger to Lesbians. Their right-brainness which makes them naturally good at math/science/map reading etc. is shared by MANY dykes. They legitimately speak of always “feeling different” as far back as they can remember from other girls. Because feeling different from our earliest memories is so common among Lesbians, when we hear another woman speak of it, we too can mistake that familiarity for Lesbian. But their psycho/sexual pathology doesn’t bond them to Lesbians, it pathologises itself in the form of a dual hatred of dykes. They hate us because they cannot be us (not desire men) and they hate us because we’re women.
Portrait D: This is the smallest minority of Straightbians. Portrait D‘s are an EXTREME form of Portrait C‘s. Extreme because their sexual/mental abuses were so tremendous, coupled with their right brainness they later identify and even idolize their male abusers. This idolization turns them into abusers themselves; usually abusers of women, mostly straight women who have also been abused as children. Their warped worship of male abusers/men even lead some to transition. Their heterosexuality will often display itself in the form of sexual fantasy or activity involving younger men. Their sadism with women will often take the appearance of sex, because nudity/genitals etc are involved, but Portrait D’s, like all Straightbians, lack sexual desire for women. Their only desire for women is to hurt them. Their heterosexual desires will often come alive with younger males; partly because their attraction is to males and partly because their maturity puts them in a power position over younger males. In and of itself they may seem to pose more of a threat to male youth than dykes, which is true. But: what is also true is, they play out their sexual psycho-pathology of sadistic sexual abuses of women and boys under the rubric of “
Lesbian” and often in academia.
Some general statements and subjects (by no means complete) routinely used by Straightbians:
- Not all Lesbians are born that way.
- Lesbian is a choice some women make.
- Any woman can choose to be a Lesbian.
- But anyone cannot choose to be a woman.
- Lesbian has nothing to do with sex.
- Sexuality is fluid.
- Lesbians DO have sex with men and enjoy it.
- Dykes and Butches are so manly/masculine and handsome.
- Dykes/Butches transition because they’re really men inside.
- I support Political Lesbianism.
- Patriarchy is the root of all evil.
- Patriarchy is to blame for all of women’s woes.
- We do not fall in love with gender we fall in love with the person.
- Gender Identity scientifically proves that the differences between men and women are not biological but instead based on societal expectations and prejudices.
- Gender is socially constructed.
- There are no male or female brains/brain differences at birth.
- Compulsory Heterosexuality-wash/rinse/repeat, ad nauseum.
- Prostitution. Prostitution. Prostitution.
- Racism. Black Lives Matter. Racism. Black Lives Matter. Racism.
- Pornography. Pornography teaches male violence. Pornography. Male Violence. Pornography.
- Mansplaining. Mansplaining. Mansplaining.
- Men are evil. I hate men. Men hate women.
- Transwomen are not women, ad fucking nauseum.
- Transwomen are forcing lesbians to have sex with them!
- Abortion/Reproductive Rights.
- MRAs are EVERYWHERE and they are bullying me! MRAs. MRAs.
- Radical Feminists eschew femininity.
- Intersectionality. Inclusivity.
- I’m a radical feminist, not the fun kind.
Important Note: While many of the issues listed above are indeed of the utmost importance, these issues are not Lesbian-centric, not Lesbian-accurate, and do not seek to improve the lives of actual Lesbians. Therefore, those who focus primarily/solely on these (or other) non-Lesbian issues to the exclusion of caring about specifically Lesbian issues are who we are referring to above.
This clearly is a general overview, because were we to detail each Portrait and sub-Portrait, we could fill an entire book (a later project??) and obviously, this does not explain the history/behaviour of every single Straightbian ever. But we are confident that Lesbians can and will benefit from a greater awareness of and psychology behind straight women who seek out Lesbians to date, who with straight privilege in tow and heterosexual lens firmly in place define and DICKtate Lesbian to society and to Lesbians ourselves and who all-around have been to Lesbians what AIDS has been to gay men.
dirt and Mrs. Dirt
**Edited to add to the “Important Note” above. Please also see Comments for further clarification.