UPDATE: “Mary Sue” has a gargantuan bug up her butt and just published my real name on Twitter, (purportedly) because I allegedly “invade the privacy” of others.
If that is her real issue with me, I’m not sure who she thinks I have doxxed, because I have only used the public and already-well-known names/information of everybody I have written about…but logic, sanity, and ethics are apparently optional for “Mary Sue”:
I really shouldn’t have to answer the question of why I use a pseudonym, because, quite frankly, it is nobody’s business.
Plus, I have already addressed this issue several times…here is just one such example:
However, since a very annoying cockroach** who is trying to play Miss Marple in a boneheaded attempt to “out” my legal name, I’m doing this post to address this issue directly.
(**Note: I think it is one known individual with multiple accounts who is attempting to shit-stir, but of course, it’s also possible that it may be a whole roach motel involved. Whatever the case, the following points will apply regardless).
Here is the latest example of this ongoing nonsense. A brand-new “egg” account with no followers, no previous tweets, and not following anyone just randomly decides to bust my chops as their first tweet?? Hmmmm, that seems rather doubtful, but let’s take a look:
Here are my comments to this sort of fishing expedition, listed in no particular order:
1). I have always been open that neither Saye Bennett nor Mrs. Dirt is my real name. This fact has been mentioned numerous times here, on Dirt’s blog, and on Twitter. This information is even in my bio both here and on Twitter. Not a secret, Sherlock.
2). My real first name is Anna. As with #1, this information has been mentioned many times in multiple places.
3). By far, the main reason I write using an alias is to feel like I have the freedom to say whatever I want, in any way I want. I want to be able to talk about sex. I want to be able to be non-politically-correct. I want to be able to curse. I want to be able to talk about events in my life (using aliases for everyone involved, of course) without embarrassing and/or identifying anyone else.
4). Using a pseudonym for writing has been a very common practice for a very long time. It is not nefarious, new, surprising, or mysterious.
5). There are many legitimate and smart reasons (in addition to my primary reasons, listed above) that any woman might choose to not use her real name online. The most obvious reasons are: safety and privacy. (Um…duh!!!).
6). Anyone who claims to love and respect women would understand — without explanation — why privacy and safety are important, and therefore, that person would refrain from perpetual attempts to publicly identify me or any other woman who chooses to write anonymously. Since this individual (or group?) persists in such activity, by definition, there is no true love or respect for women present.
7). Brazenly using your own name publicly and constantly posting publicly where you are at all times may seem brave, but in reality, it is very risky. To anyone who wants to reveal my identity: Please feel free to take those risks yourself, but don’t be presumptuous/arrogant enough to risk anyone else’s safety in your misguided and twisted quest.
8). I happily reveal my full name to anyone who needs to know it, including, for example, employers, licensure/certification entities, etc. I also reveal my real name to anyone I CHOOSE to tell. “Everybody on the internet” and “annoying butt-hurt person trying to cause trouble” are examples which obviously do NOT meet my criteria.
9). Rudely confronting someone out of the blue in an attempt to “jar” or “disquiet” her is never a smart approach. In fact, doing so is as transparent as it is stalker-like, disturbed, deranged, and quite frankly, pathological.
In summary, I don’t intend to have this conversation again. Such ploys in the future will either be completely ignored, blocked, or sent the link to this post. Life is too short to deal with unwarranted, unwelcome, and senseless drama.