Dear Straight Women: Lesbians Aren’t Your Bitches

Earlier today, Dirt and I came across this objectionable article on Facebook, ironically posted on a site called lesbianpride.org.

This article purports that “Ruby Rose’s Sexiness Is Apparently Turning Straight Women Into Lesbians“, and as any readers of ours already knows, we call BULLSHIT on that one. Nobody can “turn into a Lesbian”; you either are one, or you’re not.

I won’t belabor that point again, however, since we both have addressed it multiple times on both of our blogs.

The main point I want to make in regard to this article and the widespread assumption that Lesbians should be flattered by straight females’ attention is to give all of the straight women who think that Lesbians are your consolation prize a very clear message:

Go to Hell. 

Lesbians deserve someone who will love us for exactly who we are, which a straight woman will NEVER be able to do because orientation doesn’t change.

We deserve better.

Lesbians, do NOT settle for anything less than Lesbian.

And, here is a joint post with Dirt on this topic, originally posted here:

While this post is prompted by this particular article, it is by no means an isolated incident, nor an incident particular to media status.

I find it interesting that when a group of men say a Woman is fuckable, they are deemed to be objectifying, sexist pigs — but a straight Woman declares a Dyke bangable (and by bangable, in (Het) Woman terms, means she’d let said lezzie lick her pussy, because, of course, that’s all Lesbians do/want to do sexually, right?) and Lesbians everywhere are supposed to be fucking grateful!!!

Lesbians do not require (Het) Women to tell us we are attractive, fuckable, hot, sexy, or anyfuckingthing!

Dear (Het) Women,

  • Lesbians do NOT want your bored-with-men desires;
  • Lesbians do NOT want your potential het diseases;
  • Lesbians do NOT want your dick breath/dick germs;
  • Lesbians do NOT want your emotional histrionics;
  • Lesbians do NOT want your petty heterocentric materialistic BS;
  • Lesbians do NOT want your woman-born-woman/woman-identified-woman wantonness;
  • Lesbians do NOT want your one-sided, half-assed, pillow-princess pity fucks while you are waiting to catch the next dickmobile STRAIGHT back to Hetsville;
  • Lesbians do NOT want your backstabbing compliments/thinly veiled insults as to how we are so much like a man;

In summary, (Het) Women……Lesbians do NOT want YOU!

Sincerely–Lesbians!

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Dear Lesbians,

We know it may SEEM flattering when (Het) Women say we are fuckable. Lesbians, including ourselves, are starving for depictions of ourselves on TV, movies, books, and media. We know what it is like to scarf up any pitiful scrap that is thrown our way. We know how frustrating it is to never be truly seen by society and to never truly see ourselves being accurately represented…ANYFUCKINGWHERE!

But it is NOT a compliment to be deemed fuckable by a (Het) Woman. Sure, a (Het) Woman might fuck you (or, more accurately, get fucked BY you), but rest assured, she will also fuck you over. And when she is done with her little experiment (i.e., YOU), she will be sucking dick before sundown.

We deserve better.

Lesbians, do NOT settle for anything less than Lesbian.

Love,

dirt & Mrs. Dirt

8 thoughts on “Dear Straight Women: Lesbians Aren’t Your Bitches

  1. OK, great response to a ridiculous article. I agree with 95% of it. And yet… my absolute lesbian tomboy girlfriend LOVES being complimented that she’s doing something ‘like a man’. She’s has self-identified as an out, proud, activist Lesbian since she was 20 (realizing at about age 7 that she liked girls not boys), and is now 50.

    Also, sometimes a woman is in a transition from ‘being Het’ to coming out, and perhaps fancying a woman like Ruby is part of her self-discovery process? Surely we need to let every woman find her way in her own time? My Aunt was married twice to men, and had 3 kids, then fell in love age 49 with a younger woman in her Gender Studies class, and they’ve been together ever since; now she’s 79.

    Just a thought, here in Oz, G x

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    • Thanks for your comment!

      Dirt has written before about how Lesbians can indeed be flattered when we are told we are doing something “like a man” & similar comments comparing us to men.

      I think this is the post: http://dirtywhiteboi67.blogspot.com/2016/05/straightbian-privilege-heterocentricity.html?spref=tw&m=1

      But, here’s the thing: we shouldn’t be flattered.

      And, more importantly, my question is: why would anyone who truly loves us for exactly who we are (female) want to “compliment” us by comparing us to something we are not, and can never be?

      Do you see how that is invalidating of actual Lesbians, and how, in very extreme cases, could lead to Lesbians wanting to transition?

      I have written before about “later in life Lesbians”; so, yes, they do exist, although in less quantities than I originally thought, I think. In some cases, I do think there are legitimate “later in life Lesbians”; in other cases, I think they are Straightbians who have chosen to be with women — even for decades — for a variety of possible reasons.

      Here is my post about “later-in life Lesbians”: https://sayebennett.com/2016/06/10/truth-later-in-life-lesbians/

      So, to try to answer your question, yes, I do think for the “later in life Lesbians”, one stage of coming out might be to get crushes on friends, coworkers, even TV stars. And yes, every woman will find her own way in her own time. In that case, she needs to be honest with herself and with any potential lovers that she is confused and unsure of her sexuality BEFORE embarking on an affair. That way, the Lesbian can decide whether or not she wants to proceed. Informed consent is imperative, and if a woman lies to a potential partner about her sexuality and/or confused feelings, then informed consent isn’t happening.

      My main issue is for Lesbians to be adequately informed so we can protect ourselves and make informed decisions.

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      • I agree with you. Perhaps my girl’s desire to claim ‘manly’ activities or behaviors as her own is part of her owning her ‘masculine’ tendencies? She would never dream of being a man, nor wanting to be one! She loves her female body, as do I. Perhaps we just need more fluidity on how we define manly behavior? And by the way, she TELLS me to call her ‘tomboy or manly’, she loves it.

        Re later lesbians: my Aunt did tell her 2nd husband before marrying him that she thought she was a lesbian, but it was the 70s in a small conservative town in the U.K, and she wanted more kids, so she did that whole journey… and as I said, 30 years after finally finding her Love, is now happily a Lesbian at last. Better late than never. Thanks for linking those posts, I’ll look at them tomorrow on laptop not this dodgy smartphone 😊 G

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        • I agree we need to redefine what activities/attributes are deemed “masculine”. Because, unless it requires a penis, 🙃LOL, any activity/attribute itself isn’t inherently “masculine”.

          Re: “later in life Lesbians”, yes, I do know (or know of) a few myself. Some stayed with men for years & had kids. But, like your aunt, they all report that they knew (at least on some level) that they were Lesbians but the societal/family pressures to act straight were too much at the time so they didn’t come out until later.

          Thanks for reading those posts; let me know your thoughts…🙂

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