When hetsplaining Lesbian, one frequent mistake that heterosexual people make is assuming that Lesbian relationships are mimicry of straight relationships, along with the incorrect assumption that Lesbians seek to emulate straight people.
One particularly odious and completely ridiculous trope is that Butch Lesbians have “eschewed femininity” and that they are “trying to be men“, and that Femme Lesbians are playing the “straight woman” in our relationships.
No. Just NO.
It’s way past time for all of the straight people who think/say such things to remove their head from their own egocentric asses.
It is even more bizarre and distressing when such utter nonsense emerges from alleged “
Let’s take a look at just a couple of the multiple lesbophobic comments from these faux “
feminist allies” about Dirt, and I hope that these examples will expose what these faux “ feminist allies” REALLY think about Lesbians and our relationships ~ underneath their FAKE, chipper “But I totally support Lesbians!” rhetoric:
Please recall that Harpy is the very same individual who came up with this gem to explain our Lesbian relationship:
Let’s examine exactly what these self-proclaimed “
feminist allies” TRULY think/feel about Lesbians underneath their bullshit “ support“:
- They are condescending, rude, hateful, and/or vicious toward us.
- They clearly don’t understand Lesbians nor our relationships.
- They don’t TRY to understand Lesbians nor our relationships.
- They see Lesbians as simplistic heterosexual mimickers/wannabes.
- They see Lesbian relationships as imitations of straight relationships.
- They see Butch Lesbians as intentionally/willfully “non-conforming to gender norms”.
- They think Butch Lesbians are imitating men and that they want to be men.
- They think Femme Lesbians are imitating straight women/relationships.
- They think Femme Lesbians are stupid, shallow, vacuous, vain, and dependent. (Which is quite an interesting perception, since they think we are imitating THEM. Think about it.).
- They think that heterosexual relationships are higher status than Lesbian relationships. (For instance, in other tweets, they talked about our relationship with “marriage” and “wife” in quotation marks!).
- They think that Dirt’s parents would/should be upset with the fact she is Butch, which shows their own underlying shocking lesbophobia.
- They think that we are Lesbians because we are damaged in some way (“Would be intriguing to hear about her parents”).
- They think Lesbians are simply play-acting; that our entire lives are a flimsy choice to mysteriously try to emulate heterosexuality….which doesn’t even make any sense, but apparently logic is optional for these cretins.
- They see Lesbians only through their own narrow heterocentric lens…which is to say: they don’t really see US at all, nor do they care to.
I could go on and on, but I think that is the general summation of the falsehoods that these false allies TRULY believe about us when you scratch underneath the shiny surface of their “
Once again for the slow learners: Lesbians are NOT “mimicking straight relationships” nor are we “trying to be men” (nor any other obnoxious variation of these lies). WE ARE LESBIANS. Lesbian lives/relationships are IN NO WAY related to these outlandish claims.
These same individuals will tweet all day about how men are allegedly trying to coerce Lesbians into sleeping with them etc. etc. etc. ~ and some complete fools therefore mistakenly think that means they support Lesbians:
My message to these hetsplaining hypocritical harpies (and their ilk) and their fawning fan-boy is:
Attention Lesbians: These people are not allies to Lesbians, and they are not our friends. Furthermore, Lesbians don’t want, nor need, their “
help“. These people are not only NOT helping Lesbians, but they are a HUGE part of the problem themselves by continuing to believe and to spew hateful lies and ignorant misconceptions about Lesbians.
With every hateful and/or ignorant tweet, these people are showing their true lesbophobic colors.
So: Keep it up, harpies & sycophants, because I WANT Lesbians to see the truth, and these folks are proving what Dirt and I are saying with every venomous word.