A few readers have emailed me asking for my personal recommendations for a reading list for dealing with the narcissists & other people who have toxic effects on those around them, so I thought I would do a post.
Please note that ALL of these disclaimers still apply.
1). Will I Ever Be Good Enough? by Karyl McBride (for daughters of narcissistic mothers)
2). Will I Ever Be Free of You? by Karyl McBride (for those going through a break-up with a narcissist, particularly a high-conflict divorce)
3). If You Had Controlling Parents by Dan Neuharth (for those whose parents were controlling)
4). The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life by Robin Stern (for anyone being gaslighted or interested in knowing more about gaslighting)
5). Positive Energy by Judith Orloff (for those who want to protect themselves from negative energy)
6). Emotional Freedom by Judith Orloff (for those who want to protect themselves from negative energy)
7). How To Stubbornly Refuse To Make Yourself Miserable About Anything by Albert Ellis (the title says it all)
8). How To Keep People From Pushing Your Buttons by Albert Ellis (the title says it all)
9). In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People by George K. Simon (the title says it all)
10). Psychopath Free: Expanded Edition by Jackson MacKenzie (the title is somewhat of a misnomer due to the word “psychopath”, but still a good book for dealing with narcissists, sociopaths, and other toxic people)
This list is not intended to be comprehensive by any means, but rather just an overview of a few of my favorites that I would personally recommend.
Please let me know if you have any other recommendations, either by commenting below or emailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
08/02/2017: Edited to Add:
11). Children of the Self-Absorbed by Nina W. Brown
12). Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Susan Forward and Craig Buck
13). The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner
14). Why Is It Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss
15). Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger