Since Dirt and I started speaking out about Straightbians and the multiple ways in which they harm Lesbian lives, we have both received numerous emails and private messages thanking us for speaking out.
Sadly, though, the majority of our private supporters do not have the courage to say so in public.
As just one example, here is what one person said to me privately, versus what she later said publicly:
Well, I know that it is difficult for some Lesbians to come out of the closet, but that issue has nothing whatsoever to do with Straightbians. (You either are, or are not, a Lesbian, and if you are, you aren’t a Straightbian…zero overlap).
I wish I could say such a gap between private versus public behavior was limited to this one person, but, alas, it is not.
It seems that the price for speaking the truth is too costly for most people.
For me, truth trumps popularity. I won’t lie in order to be popular and tell people what they WANT to hear.
The truth is: Any woman cannot just magically “become a Lesbian”, and all the wishful thinking and denial in the world won’t change that simple fact.
PS: You may be wondering why I am bringing this up. Well, the answer is simple: It is because I am frustrated and burned out with fighting with straight women on Twitter over what it means to be a Lesbian, while knowing that other (real) Lesbians agree, but nonetheless won’t publicly support the (very) few of us who are willing to speak out.