When The Straightbians Go Riding In

I have written before about how being a Lesbian is NOT all about sex.

But it bears repeating, again and again and AGAIN, because straight people make that mistake over and over and OVER…and that includes Straightbians who are pretending to be Lesbians.

In a recent argument, a friend was dismissed by a group of Straightbians and basically told that she needed to “get laid”.

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Others chimed in with their own tales of “riding butches”; here is one such (too-much-information) comment:

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First of all, ewwww.

Secondly, the fact that some females have the appalling nerve to dismiss another female’s thoughts/concerns with the heterosexist, DICKsgusting notion that “getting laid” is somehow a magic bullet simply defies belief. (The “you-need-to-get-laid” concept is exactly the kind of riDICKulous, rude, and unwelcome nonsense that men have said to women for the purpose of dismissing their concerns since the beginning of time).

Thirdly, and most importantly for the purposes of this post, this apparent fetishizing of Butches (and even the Straightbians who pretend to be Butches) is a gross and completely inappropriate sexual objectification. Butches (and even the Straightbians who pretend to be Butches) are not sex toys to be used. How would these Straightbians feel if their lovers were talking publicly about “riding” them like a Harley on a bad piece of road? Would they embrace being objectified, used, and depersonalized in such a crass and uncaring way? Maybe…but I doubt it.

The point is that this response is soooooo common for Straightbians. When confronted, many Straightbians typically respond with some sort of sexual comment. Why? Because they think that having sex with a female means they are a Lesbian. They are wrong.

Once more for the recordBEING A LESBIAN IS NOT ALL ABOUT SEX.

Straightbians: You are NOT proving your “Lesbianism” by bragging about how much sex you’ve had with females. In fact, you’re proving instead that you absolutely have no clue what it actually means to be a Lesbian; and you’re proving that you mistakenly think that such hypersexualized playacting is “Lesbian”.

So, keep on riding, ladies, if that is what floats your boat…but don’t dare think that makes you a Lesbian, because it doesn’t. Not in any way, shape, or form.

Oh, and you may want to consider that nobody really gives a crap about your sex life. If your sex life is great, by all means, please enjoy yourself…but just be aware that most people really don’t want to hear the details about it. Just sayin’.

4 thoughts on “When The Straightbians Go Riding In

  1. Saddle up and ride that butch, bitch! And don’t forget, sparing the spurs spoils the butch!

    I’m sorry, I can’t keep this up, even as a joke. Old faggots like me aren’t easily shocked, but I *am* shocked by the blatancy of these women’s objectification of my friends: substitute men, basically. I’ve been trying to find a parallel in the gay male world (‘cos that’s what I do); it’s probably more a testimony to my own (blessed?) ignorance than serious analysis that I haven’t come up with one.

    I don’t mind straight people having a paddle in our pond. If they choose to visit Gaytown (Gayton, I suppose, for us Brits), I’m keen to show them all the sights. But I don’t want them moving in and telling us how to run our village. You don’t get to be a lesbian just by declaring yourself so: you have to graduate from gayschool like the rest of us.

    My lesdar is nowhere near as finely tuned as my gaydar (it would be kinda weird if it were), but that’s definitely a faculty real lesbians should hone and apply.

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