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STRAIGHTBIAN Claims Dirt and Mrs Dirt are Extreme Trans Activists

In the more than dozen plus years I have been actively writing about/criticizing/myth dispelling/accurate info providing about transgenderism/cross-sex hormone use/transgender surgical mutilations coupled HEAVILY with and now centered on Lesbian biology/Lesbian psychology/Lesbian childhood/Lesbian Teen-hood/Lesbian adulthood etc, MANY MANY MANY trite illogical/ignorant/moronic/over-emotional/lamebrained, and imbecilic insults have come my way. But surely the MOST birdbrained of all has to be that Mrs Dirt and myself are a trans couple/trans activists!
Yes, you read that right. This rumour began (not surprisingly) after our UnSTRAIGHTening Lesbian series took off and has occasionally picked up steam. Apparently Mrs Dirt (as Hetsplained rumour has it) was born a man and transitioned to that of a trans(woman), while I was born a female but transitioned to that of a trans(man). (Hetsplained rumour also has it) that Mrs Dirt was/is an autogynephile (Het male who transitions) while I was a Lesbian who transitioned.
The mirth aspect of these particular rumours is not even that they have no merit whatsoever (clearly they dont), BUT that they make absolutely no biological transgender sense! But sense, linear thought, and biological reality are all (as our unSTRAIGHTening series has shown) foreign concepts to the STRAIGHTBIAN mind. For STRAIGHTBIANS, self-preservation trumps truth every time, and the work Mrs Dirt and I are doing threatens STRAIGHTBIANS living or dead (so it seems) to such an acute degree that even what we write on our own PERSONAL (albeit public) blogs is grounds for warning!

Despite a very glaring and blatant warning to read this blog at your our risk (or as the STRAIGHTBIAN case may be) at your own peril, STRAIGHTBIANS CANNOT STAY AWAY:

HER own peril as the case may be. Whether or not this is the STRAIGHTBIAN who started the trans rumours about Mrs Dirt and I, its clear this IS the STRAIGHTBIAN spreading them at THIS point in time. The first Twitter screencap is from a week ago and the second is from yesterday:

Now take a gander at this Facebook gem that fell into my lap (thanks to a Lesbian) this morning:

This makes it crystal clear there is a STRAIGHTBIAN driven (secret) group dedicated to slandering Mrs Dirt and myself, in a futile effort to silence Lesbian truths, Lesbian lives, Lesbian narratives, and Lesbian biology! And according to other FB posts that were shared with me, the admin of this group IS the STRAIGHTBIAN claiming Mrs Dirt and I are transgender!
Since this is still new info to Mrs Dirt and I and since we arent much familiar with STRAIGHTBIAN who is slandering us, we cannot tell you much more, as we ourselves are on a fact-finding mission as I write this. What I can tell you is that the Het woman/STRAIGHTBIAN driving the rumour mill bus is quickly headed for a dead-end street.
Unless STRAIGHTBIANS who have numbers and Het privilege on their side, Dykes have biology and biology trumps EVERYTHING!


The Difference Between Passive-Aggressive and Just Plain Aggressive

Recently, a commenter has been trolling my sweetie Dirt‘s blog, seemingly for the sole purpose of making condescending and/or argumentative comments.

When I said something directly to this individual, she responded by saying I was “passive-aggressive” (here is a small sampling of our interaction, you can see the whole thing at the link):

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Not only is it annoying that this individual thinks that I am the passive-aggressive one, but, more importantly, it is incorrect.

Responding directly is not passive-aggressive…no, I was just plain aggressive:Image 1

Heads-up: When you troll my wife’s (or my) blog and, instead of trying to have an actual discussion of the topic, you decide instead to make snarky, rude, hostile, argumentative, hetsplaining, homophobic, and/or petty comments, don’t be surprised when I (or Dirt) get aggressive. NOT passive-aggressive….no, just plain aggressive.

I’m not going to indirectly communicate with such a person, I am going to tell that person very directly what I think (AKA I behave as a Lesbian).  And, in this particular case, I believe that this person is intentionally being a dick, so I responded in the same tone as the commenter.

I used to try to reason with rude people like that; I used to remain polite…but no more. If someone wants to have an honest, polite conversation, fine…but if the sole goal seems to be to insult either Dirt or me, then the gloves are off.

If you’re going to accuse me of something, at least get it right. Was I being condescending to this person in my replies?  For sure. Was I rude? Oh, heck yeah. But was I passive-aggressive? Nope. It pays to learn the difference.

Why I Use A Pseudonym. (Not That It Is Anyone’s Business).

UPDATE: “Mary Sue” has a gargantuan bug up her butt and just published my real name on Twitter, (purportedly) because:

Because I bet her real name is “Mary Sue” or “realbaddeeds”. Um…probably NOT! LOL

Oh, well. I have known that people could (and likely would) dox me all along, but I didn’t see any reason to make it easier for them by handing them my real name on a platter.

I still don’t.

People like “Mary Sue” spend much time and energy making the world a worse place to inhabit. “Mary Sue” and her ilk are pitiful, petty, mean-spirited cowards with too much time on their hands and too much hate in their hearts.

Poor “Mary Sue”, bless her tiny little dried-up Grinch-like heart; I honestly hope she catches a clue and gets a life, instead of continuing to waste her precious time on earth trying to hurt others.


I really shouldn’t have to answer the question of why I use a pseudonym, because,  quite frankly, it is nobody’s business.

Plus, I have already addressed this issue several times…here is just one such example:image-7

However, since a very annoying cockroach** who is trying to play Miss Marple in a boneheaded attempt to “out” my legal name, I’m doing this post to address this issue directly.

(**Note: I think it is one known individual with multiple accounts who is attempting to shit-stir, but of course, it’s also possible that it may be a whole roach motel involved. Whatever the case, the following points will apply regardless).

Here is the latest example of this ongoing nonsense. A brand-new “egg” account with no followers, no previous tweets, and not following anyone just randomly decides to bust my chops as their first tweet??  Hmmmm, that seems rather doubtful, but let’s take a look:


Poor “Mary Sue”.  Bless her heart.


Hahahaha! Did “Mary Sue” really think this was plausible?

Here are my comments to this sort of fishing expedition, listed in no particular order:

1). I have always been open that neither Saye Bennett nor Mrs. Dirt is my real name. This fact has been mentioned numerous times here, on Dirt’s blog, and on Twitter. Not a secret, Sherlock. Please try to keep up.

2). My real first name is Anna. As with #1, this information has been mentioned many times in multiple places.

3). By far, the main reason I write using an alias is to feel like I have the freedom to say whatever I want, in any way I want. I want to be able to talk about sex. I want to be able to be non-politically-correct. I want to be able to curse. I want to be able to talk about events in my life (using aliases for everyone involved, of course) without embarrassing and/or identifying anyone else.

4). Using a pseudonym for writing has been a very common practice for a very long time. It is not nefarious, new, surprising, or mysterious.

5). There are many legitimate and smart reasons (in addition to my primary reasons, listed above) that any woman might choose to not use her real name online. The most obvious reasons are: safety and privacy.  (Um…duh!!!).

6). Anyone who claims to love and respect women would understand — without explanation — why privacy and safety are important, and therefore, that person would refrain from perpetual attempts to publicly identify me or any other woman who chooses to write anonymously. Since this individual (or group?) persists in such activity, by definition, there is no true love or respect for women present.

7). Brazenly using your own name publicly and constantly posting publicly where you are at all times may seem brave, but in reality, it is very risky. To anyone who wants to reveal my identity: Please feel free to take those risks yourself, but don’t be presumptuous/arrogant enough to risk anyone else’s safety in your misguided and twisted quest.

8). I happily reveal my full name to anyone who needs to know it, including, for example, employers, licensure/certification entities, etc. I also reveal my real name to anyone I CHOOSE to tell. “Everybody on the internet” and “annoying butt-hurt assclown trying to cause trouble” are examples which obviously do NOT meet my criteria.

9). Rudely confronting someone out of the blue in an attempt to “jar” or “disquiet” her is never a smart approach. In fact, doing so is as transparent as it is stalker-like, disturbed, deranged, and quite frankly, pathological.


Creepy much?

In summary, I don’t intend to have this conversation again. Such ploys in the future will either be completely ignored, blocked, or sent the link to this post. Life is too short to deal with unwarranted, unwelcome, and senseless drama. 


I would say it’s been nice, but I would be lying.

What Comments Reveal


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Dear Rude Recent Wannabe-Commenter(s?),

You may be wondering why your comments did not get published, or perhaps you’d already guessed that your inane, snide comments would never make it through moderation. You may be one person making multiple attempts to comment, or you may be many people sending similar messages of juvenile name-calling and attempted insults. You may be truly functionally illiterate, or you may be attempting to disguise your true identity by pretending to be.

While there are obviously many things I do not know about you, I can discern enough from your now-deleted comments to make an educated guess about you and your motivations.

You feel that anyone who even questions your strongly-held beliefs is inherently evil and therefore must be intimidated, punished, and silenced, and you are under the very mistaken impression that you can hurt my feelings, silence me, or scare me.

You can call me a c*nt and a bitch and tell me that I am stupid and guilty (or “guiltie” as you spelled it in one comment), but spewing all the venom in the world will not make me shut up.

Here’s the thing: People who are truly balanced and content do not need to make trolling comments. People who are genuinely happy with their lives are too busy actually living their lives to troll a stranger’s blog.

So, next time you decide to make disparaging comments to me (or, for that matter, to anyone else), you really need to realize that your comments always say a lot more about you than they do about the intended recipient.

If you ever want to actually have a coherent, respectful, intelligent discussion, please let me know.

Otherwise, don’t even bother leaving comments like your recent ones, because not only will they never be published, you are only making yourself look pitiful.


Mrs. Dirt